This college scandal involving celebrities and super wealthy families is all over the news and is shocking. As a mom with two teenage boys heading towards college applications and as a psychologist who does evaluations for kids with learning difficulties (who often need accommodations for testing/college), I have been thinking a lot about the situation. Parents cheating the system for their kids to get into a certain college, though, should not be too much of a surprise as many of us think it is our job as parents to do whatever we need to do to make sure our kids have the best opportunities possible. However, most of us also know that the “do anything” approach also has limits and we want our kids to think and do for themselves. As a psychologist, I think it is also important to consider this scandal in the context of the stress and pressure teenagers are under today. I think about the kids in the scandal who did not know what was being done and what the … [Read more...] about What Do I Say to My Sons About the College Scandal?
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Source: Pixabay The rush—sometimes it starts the moment you get out of bed! You might be late, or have forgotten to do something the night before, or perhaps you’ve overslept. It’s a mad dash to get out of the house and to wherever you need to go. You get in your car and it’s like a force takes over—you find yourself driving fast, refusing to let other drivers get in front of you and taking corners on two wheels. The mad rush continues and careens into your day. What’s the result of the rush? Traffic fatalities have risen significantly as a result of rushing, and by the time you get to your destination you are worn out from the stress of gripping the steering wheel too tightly. You know that rushing and being anxious and worrying about whether you will get there on time—and in one piece— can impact your physical body as well as your mind. And when you rush, you are likely to make more mistakes, overlook things and be less … [Read more...] about It’s Just Not That Important
Source: MaxPixels, Public Domain Every job seeker starts their search with a full tank of emotional gas. With each rejection or no response, some gas is burned. This article should boost your chances of landing a job before running out of gas. Gas Guzzlers Externalizing responsibility Yes, factors such as race, gender, age, and looks affect job prospects, but of course, focusing on those will drain your gas faster. Focus on what you can control: an appropriate job target and thorough, competent search, including tapping existing and new connections. Don't know what a good job search looks like? Check this out. Excessive rumination The philosophy of successful job seekers, indeed successful people in most endeavors, is Ready, FIRE! Aim! After just modest preparation, they try out things. That's because getting real-world feedback enables them to adjust, to aim better. Of course, try to take low-risk actions. For example, the job seeker who’s unsure whether their … [Read more...] about Your Emotional Gas Tank