Not always. One first response to learning about impostor syndrome is to think, "How interesting! So many talented people who mistakenly believe they are impostors! And then there’s me, a genuine impostor." Someone with engrained self-doubts will not easily recognise those doubts as misplaced, even once she can spot impostor syndrome in other people. Self-diagnosis requires us to somehow believe that we are inadequate and at the same time reject that belief as mistaken; to think of ourselves as fraudulent, and yet recognise that truly we are not. … [Read more...] about Shame, Guilt, and Impostor Syndrome
Understanding shame and guilt
Experimental studies have mimicked these situations. For example, one study left a dog in a room with a treat that he or she had been commanded not to eat. The dogs were given the opportunity to obey or disobey the command and then observed when their owners reentered the room. Importantly, the experimenters also controlled for what the owners thought the dogs had done while left alone. Thus, in one condition the owner thought that the dog had stolen the food—but he hadn’t! Researchers then analyzed when dogs showed the typical “guilty” look, including behaviors like avoiding looking at the owner, offering the paw, slinking away in submission, pulling their ears back toward the neck, and tucking the tail between the legs. … [Read more...] about Do Dogs Feel Jealousy or Guilt?
“I shouldn’t have taken the car. What a fool I am.” “He will kill me when he finds out.” “I hate being controlled by my parents.” “My friends will think I am a jerk.” Ruminating over thoughts like the ones above will only cause Jeffrey frustration, which will increase his stress. The frustration causes stress and associated discomfort while also making him feel helpless to improve his circumstances. He is stuck reviewing the same material over and over again with no progress. … [Read more...] about Does Thinking About Problems Make Them Better?
One individual from the Southern United States is currently entrenched in a difficult divorce due to actions by his narcissistic ex-partner. He is finally dating other people but that doesn’t stop his ex from attempting to micromanipulate him. She buries little nuggets of heavy topics into light conversations about their children or holidays. For example, she recently commented offhand about an upcoming doctor appointment and that she should be on time for picking up the kids if the visit didn’t turn into extra tests due to cancer or complications. … [Read more...] about Micromanipulations: A Narcissist’s Method of Control
About the guest author: Everett Worthington, Ph.D., is Commonwealth Professor Emeritus working from the Department of Psychology at Virginia Commonwealth University. He holds a Faculty Affiliate appointment at the Institute for Quantitative Social Sciences, Faculty of Arts and Sciences, Harvard University (Human Flourishing Program). He continues to be active in research and speaking around the world. He is a licensed Clinical Psychologist in Virginia. He has published over 40 books and around 500 articles and scholarly chapters, mostly on forgiveness, humility and positive psychology, marriage, and family topics, and religion and spirituality. He also has developed the REACH Forgiveness model being tested currently in global grant-funded randomized controlled trials in six countries, and he has developed numerous other positive psychological interventions. … [Read more...] about How to Cultivate Forgiveness in the Face of Trauma