In contrast, if Mom isn’t responsive to our needs, we acquire an insecure attachment style. Our intuitions are biased toward a fundamental distrust of others, and this lack of trust impacts every close relationship in our lives. When we need emotional support from others, we either become overly demanding, or else we retreat in solitude to lick our wounds. And since we’re not used to receiving appropriate emotional support, we don’t know how to give it either. … [Read more...] about How Good Is Your “Romantic Competence”?
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That experience grounded DeYoung in a more generalized fear that drove his career. He knew that it was possible that his rock and roll dream simply might not work for him and was determined to make sure he achieved his dreams. And thus, just as his songwriting method was simple and straightforward, so was DeYoung’s motivation to achieve in his career. “Fear of failure. That's what drives us all. That's it,” DeYoung described. “... My philosophy has always been that what drives us, fear as much as anything else is a great motivator,” he said. “I think the idea of fear of failure is wrapped up with a quest for perfection. So, my whole life, I've been on that quest.” … [Read more...] about How Dennis DeYoung Helped Me Face the Life Ahead of Me
And perhaps paradoxically, Fallon feels that this foot in reality is the key to being able to escape fully onstage. “The high you feel when you are on stage, and there’s either 100 people or 10,000 people moving in sync to what you are communicating to them, there’s no other high like it in the world. And when you get off stage, you don’t want it to end, but it does. There’s a come down from it, and I think that a lot of musicians turn to drugs to stay up there. And on the flip side of that, if it’s a shit show, and there’s 10,000 people looking at you like you’ve got two heads, you can try to escape from that in a similar fashion. So, I think one of the reasons this band has been able to maintain it for as long as we have is, we have a very marked delineation between [being on stage and off].” … [Read more...] about The Universal Truth of Clutch’s Neil Fallon
These findings may suggest that enforcement of consistent early evening bedtimes and monitoring that ensures adequate sleep in children may be protective against the later expression of BPD. However, if circadian rhythm disorganization is biologically determined, such recommendations may not be easily achievable. Parents may be unable to enforce adequate sleep in young children whose biologically or genetically determined biorhythms are abnormal. Nature and nurture issues must be considered in understanding how sleep patterns are related to mental functioning. Early recognition of irregular sleep patterns in children may presage the need for early, personalized observation or intervention. … [Read more...] about Childhood Sleep and Youth BPD Symptoms