OK, Boomer What can we learn from college students? Rates of anxiety and depression are on the rise, the future of the planet is uncertain, and millenials and Gen Xers increasingly get a bad rap in the workplace. The classic formula of blaming the victim doesn’t help us understand what is happening with our young people and how they can best cope with the current world circumstances. How about ancient wisdom, presented by modern psychology? Making Mindful Self-Compassion Accessible A group of seasoned clinician-researchers in Norway, including Per-Einar Binder and esteemed colleagues, has been studying how age-old wisdom, delivered in modern, digestible bites, can help college students adapt more effectively to the fluid, frightening and uncertain environment which characterizes the world of 2020. Their team developed a series of three 90 minutes workshops based on Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC), with manageable personal practices to transform one’s relationship with oneself … [Read more...] about 5 Lessons from College Students on Applied Self-Compassion
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Think of the mind as a computer. Think of emotional regulation as computer software. Where can we get an app that will let us regulate our arousal and our emotional response? According to researcher Allan Schore, we download that app from our primary caregiver. Emotional regulation, he says, is "relationship dependent." Perhaps you’ve seen this. Someone speaks to a child in a way that recognizes him or her as a real person. The child’s parent is surprised to see how cooperatively the child responds. Unfortunately, many parents speak to their children in a way that keeps them from learning to regulate arousal and emotion. You may think that’s a stretch, but it isn’t. The ability to regulate ourselves emotionally is developed early in life. How well this ability develops depends upon the child’s relationship with those who are important to the child. The development of good self-regulation requires high quality conscious and … [Read more...] about Emotional Regulation: Is There an App For That?
Work done by Jerome Schultz, Ph.D. suggests that when people who have ADHD (in his case, children) and who don’t understand the label ‘ADHD’ take on the negative stereotypes often associated with the condition rather than see themselves as a greater 'whole.' This isn’t a huge surprise. All you have to do is stand around for a while in a school hallway before you hear “Oh, that’s so ADD!” It’s not a compliment. Adults with ADHD know this all too well – they’ve lived it. For years people told them they were inadequate, ought to try harder, never learned, or were stupid (because they didn’t test well or had problems with memory)…this list goes on and on. Sadly, many of them believed it because they didn’t have another explanation. Take ‘stupid’ – a child with ADHD might be exceptionally smart yet test poorly because s/he reads slowly (a common issue … [Read more...] about The ‘A’ Word
Most forms of therapy show equal results. The results, however, are not reliably good. For emotional regulation, most therapies rely on executive function in the left brain. But, executive function, itself emotionally fragile, falls apart just when our need for it to regulate us is greatest. When arousal becomes too high, executive function gets overwhelmed and shuts down. Neuroscience has provided us with a more reliable way to regulate anxiety. We now know that heavy duty emotional regulation depends largely on the right brain. Some therapists intuitively employ—and help their clients develop—right brain self-regulation. Unfortunately, therapists who are not relationally intuitive, apply the "paint-by-the-numbers" therapy they learned in grad school. In "Emotion Coming of Age" Leslie Greenberg writes "the field has yet to pay adequate attention to implicit and relational processes of … [Read more...] about When Anxiety Means Suffering, Can Therapy Really Help?