Much has been written about the situation at Yale, with outside observers such as Friedersdorf taking sides in a very polarized situation. While Erika and Nicholas Christakis sound very reasonable at first blush in email and video-capture, and make a case for both free speech and college students being grown ups not needing to be “policed” re Halloween garb, etc, from what I’ve seen so far, they miss the point: the administration stepped up (in their email about inappropriate Halloween costumes) in support of students because of longstanding issues of exclusion and ignorant or malicious actions creating a climate of not only misunderstanding but also fear. Why should it fall to minority students to continually educate their peers? It’s tiresome. Halloween costumes become not simply a means of play, but a means of exerting power and control. (See “We’re a Culture, Not a Costume’ Campaign”, initiated … [Read more...] about The Assault on the American Mind
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4) The mental and physical health needs of women vary across the life span. We need to teach women what to expect when these changes occur. For example, low levels of estrogen have been linked to suicidal behavior in women. As women age, many go through the emotional process of a life review (measuring what they’ve done in their life as mortality approaches), which can heighten sadness. Social connections can wane with age, so isolation is a common experience in later life. It’s vital to encourage women to take an active role in monitoring their own health, so if confronted with these developmental experiences, alternatives can be explored. … [Read more...] about Late in Life Suicide: A Concerning Trend
But the anti-conspiracy theory taboo proscribes not only certain kinds of assertions, but also a lot of mere inquiry. To support investigating hypotheses that, if collectively corroborated, would bolster a conspiracy theory, is almost as taboo as jumping prematurely to a conspiracy theory conclusion. CNN commentator Van Jones, for instance (no relation to Alex), lost a position in the Obama administration when it emerged that he had signed a petition calling for further investigation of the 9/11 attacks. The petition did not promote a specific alternative theory of the attacks, but simply asked that they be further investigated. … [Read more...] about Inquiry Without Atrocity
It’s fairly common to talk about what therapy can do for you. But before therapy can do anything to eliminate disturbing personal or relational problems, it needs to undo what caused them in the first place. Otherwise, you’re just burying old negatives underneath new positives without actually removing them. And these now dormant issues are liable to unearth themselves at any time. It’s only when unwanted beliefs and emotions are confronted and transformed that their more favorable “replacements” can stabilize and take lasting hold. … [Read more...] about How Is Rewriting History the Goal of All Therapy?
Besides reacting internally in a new way, Carl decided to create a new action response. Polly's negative comments always tempted him to point out to her that she was giving him a critical response to his gestures of affection. That strategy had not worked for the past 12 years. Maybe he could try something new. … [Read more...] about Am I Heading for a Bad Marriage? My Spouse Is So Annoying