“He who can, does; he who cannot, teaches,” according to George Bernard Shaw in his play Man and Superman . I can teach you how to detect deception . Companies, code and law enforcement organizations, schools, and even the Department of Homeland Security have hired me to tell key personnel how to know when someone is not being honest. But it doesn’t seem to matter what I know when it comes to my interactions with certain people. I’ve been duped many times. Why “certain” people and not others? I had an epiphany this morning that gave me at least one answer. Some people genuinely believe that what they do in life makes them morally superior to the rest of us. Those of us around them reinforce that belief by giving them more trust than they sometimes deserve and doing bigger favors for them than we would do for a “less noble” person. We are easily deceived about their intentions, depth of caring, loyalty, and ability to reciprocate. Halo, or Sun in My Eyes? Source: … [Read more...] about Is That Your Halo, Or Is the Sun in My Eyes?
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Creativity as a Way of Life
Creativity coaches on creativity Source: Eric Maisel Can you write a novel, paint a painting, or invent a new tech solution if you aren’t open to creative ideas at those times when you aren’t sitting down to write that novel, paint that painting, or invent that solution? Is creativity something that you turn on and off like a spigot? Or is it an orientation toward life? Are you likely to be blessed with creative ideas if you aren’t open to those ideas all the time? Here’s how professional singer and creativity coach Elena Greco explains the difference between “the creative act” and “living a creative life.” Elena writes: Do you want to be more creative? Have you been wanting forever to write a book, or long to paint, or would love to get back to playing an instrument, but can't see how to make the time to fit it in with your challenging career ? Or have you taken a survival job to support you as a creative artist, but now can’t seem to find the time to be creative? … [Read more...] about Creativity as a Way of Life
5 Ways to Test Your Magical Beliefs About Relationships
The concept of magical thinking has a long history in psychology. Although you would typically associate beliefs in magic with the kind of primitive ideas about the world shown by children, there is considerable evidence that adults can hold to irrational beliefs just as strongly as do elementary-aged youngsters. The content of those beliefs may change, but the essence of this less than scientific way to view the world can linger. To illustrate the nature of magical thoughts in adults, consider the child’s idea about something as seemingly clear regarding the moon’s appearance in the night sky. As observed in the mid-20th century by the Swiss psychologist Jean Piaget, a 6- or 7-year-old child may be convinced that “the moon is following me.” When it comes to toys, children can also ascribe lifelike qualities to their dolls, stuffed animals, and plastic dragons as you can easily observe while watching them play. However, as children move into adolescence , their beliefs in … [Read more...] about 5 Ways to Test Your Magical Beliefs About Relationships
What’s Your Psychology IQ?
While I'd hardly call myself a psychology genius by any means, I have been teaching psychology courses continuously at the college level since 1994. And I recently wrote the book Own Your Psychology Major! A Guide to Student Success (published by the American Psychology Association). So I figure I know a thing or two. Based on this experience, I thought it'd be useful to put together a straightforward quiz to help people gauge their basic knowledge of the field of psychology. Good luck! 1. Piaget's ideas on cognitive development largely focus on which of the following: A. How young adults come to understand abstract philosophical concepts B. How young adults come to understand technical concepts such as algebra C. How young children come to understand dimensions of the physical world, such as volume D. How young children come develop social and emotional skills 2. Classic research on social influence, such as Stanley Milgram's work on obedience to authority, … [Read more...] about What’s Your Psychology IQ?
Mental Health Nursing: When We Do Harm
Source: Kelly Sikkema/Unsplash Dan Warrender, lecturer in mental health nursing and Mentalization -Based therapist, on an uncomfortable relationship with the profession he loves. One night when I was 17, I walked home and saw a girl perched on the edge of a bridge. Head down, staring into the river below, legs dropping into the dark. I stopped to speak to her. Initially she said she was fine, and just wanted to be left alone. I wasn’t happy with walking past and leaving her on the edge of a bridge, and said I didn’t mind if she didn’t want to talk to me, but I would stay with her anyway. Years have passed so exact details are hazy, but we struck up a rapport. She was a few years older than me, and had been struggling through recovery from heroin addiction . Someone had called her a “f*cking junkie,” undermining her efforts to stay clean, and her self-esteem was crushed. We spoke for an hour or so, and I had no masterplan other than hearing her story. She eventually … [Read more...] about Mental Health Nursing: When We Do Harm