The concept of magical thinking has a long history in psychology. Although you would typically associate beliefs in magic with the kind of primitive ideas about the world shown by children, there is considerable evidence that adults can hold to irrational beliefs just as strongly as do elementary-aged youngsters. The content of those beliefs may change, but the essence of this less than scientific way to view the world can linger. To illustrate the nature of magical thoughts in adults, consider the child’s idea about something as seemingly clear regarding the moon’s appearance in the night sky. As observed in the mid-20th century by the Swiss psychologist Jean Piaget, a 6- or 7-year-old child may be convinced that “the moon is following me.” When it comes to toys, children can also ascribe lifelike qualities to their dolls, stuffed animals, and plastic dragons as you can easily observe while watching them play. However, as children move into adolescence , their beliefs in … [Read more...] about 5 Ways to Test Your Magical Beliefs About Relationships
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Source: iStockphoto/adl21 Have you ever fantasized about being ‘forced’ to have sex ? If so, you’re not alone. Fantasies about being taken against one’s will (sometimes known as ‘forced sex fantasies,’ ‘rape fantasies,’ or ‘ravishment fantasies’) are actually quite common. But just how many people report having had them? And why? I explored these questions in my book, Tell Me What You Want , which is based on a survey of more than 4,000 Americans’ sex fantasies. Among the many things I asked about were fantasies about being forced to have sex. Previous research has found that these fantasies are common among women; however, I found that they’re actually quite common among people of all genders. Here are the numbers: 61% of self-identified women had fantasized about this before, while 24% said they fantasized about it often. 54% of self-identified men had fantasized about this before, while 11.5% said they fantasized about it often. 68% of non-binary … [Read more...] about Why Are “Rape Fantasies” So Common?
Source: Engin Akyurt from Pexels, used with permission. I write this in the week after a first cousin who died last summer would have turned 50; one year to the day after a dump truck driver got distracted, struck, and killed a different first cousin on the other side of the family; and very nearly a year after my last grandparent passed. Those are not the only deaths among family and friends. Plus, this year has also inflicted ongoing mortal fears as society, to some degree, shut down, as close family members caught COVID (but recovered), and as good friends received terminal diagnoses (where recovery seems unlikely and yet they fight on). Through it all, it is easy to feel guilty about one's own feelings of grief and fear when "others have it so much worse." In nearly every case, that will be true because there will be those who suffer worse, and yet that does not change the individual's personal experience and confrontation with mortality. We mourn for lost human … [Read more...] about Grieving and Grief Counseling in (and for) the Year We Lost
Source: Sasin Tipchai from Pixabay Each day, reporters update us as to the number of deaths from COVID-19 . It is easy to get caught up in tracking the numbers. As of May 1, 2020, the total number of cases diagnosed in the US surpassed 1 million; the total number of US deaths passed 63,000 as of this writing. For context, that’s roughly the same number of deaths of Americans during the 20 year span of the Vietnam War. Each loss is one part of the devastating effects of this disease known as COVID-19. Each of the 63,000 individuals lost to date has left behind family, friends, and co-workers who are grieving them. Most adults are familiar with the stages of grief , thanks to the work of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler. The simplest model identifies five stages of grief: Denial and isolation, Anger , Bargaining, Depression , and lastly, Acceptance (Kubler-Ross, 2014). More recently, Kessler has suggested a sixth stage, Meaning (Kessler, 2019). If these concepts … [Read more...] about Helping Children Grieve
Source: Kelly Sikkema/Unsplash Dan Warrender, lecturer in mental health nursing and Mentalization -Based therapist, on an uncomfortable relationship with the profession he loves. One night when I was 17, I walked home and saw a girl perched on the edge of a bridge. Head down, staring into the river below, legs dropping into the dark. I stopped to speak to her. Initially she said she was fine, and just wanted to be left alone. I wasn’t happy with walking past and leaving her on the edge of a bridge, and said I didn’t mind if she didn’t want to talk to me, but I would stay with her anyway. Years have passed so exact details are hazy, but we struck up a rapport. She was a few years older than me, and had been struggling through recovery from heroin addiction . Someone had called her a “f*cking junkie,” undermining her efforts to stay clean, and her self-esteem was crushed. We spoke for an hour or so, and I had no masterplan other than hearing her story. She eventually … [Read more...] about Mental Health Nursing: When We Do Harm