As therapists, it’s important for us to keep in mind that addiction in fact progressively robs individuals of their “spirituality.” Spirituality has some connection to religious experience, to be sure. However, if we define spirituality more broadly as the values and priorities we live by, along with our important relationships and the degree to which we feel we have a place and purpose in the world, it’s easy to see how addiction progressively erodes all of these things. With this in mind, 12-step fellowships can rightly be called spiritual because of the values, beliefs, and activities they advocate. These values include honesty and humility (as opposed to arrogance) and behaviors such as altruism and prayer/meditation. … [Read more...] about The Role of Spirituality in Addiction Recovery
Love her just the way she is. There is nothing so healing, supportive, and strengthening as unconditional positive regard. Reassure her that she’s going through a tough stage. It’s totally normal to have no self-confidence from 11 to 14. This is especially true for girls. She’s sensitive and vulnerable now, like a snake who’s lost her skin and hasn’t grown the new one yet. Help her realize that it’s a sign of strength to recognize when you’re vulnerable and be okay with that. Help her recognize both her strengths and weaknesses. Help her see how each of us (including you) has both positive and negative attributes. Help her understand that nobody is perfect, but that everyone is actually perfect in their unique combination of strengths and weaknesses. Be available. Your daughter needs your patience, love, and support now as much as she did when she was a toddler. Be positive. Don’t point out her flaws, or any of the ways she could be … [Read more...] about Girls, Confidence Problems, and Peer Pressure
During my own childhood, the house rule was no trimming the tree until Christmas Eve (the rule was relaxed as I became a teenager because I was usually doing other things that night) and that all decorations came down on New Year’s Day and were boxed away until mid-December the following year. My mother believed this was wise because while it abbreviated the holiday (well—still almost two good weeks of parties and pleasure), it also made the holiday more special—to stretch it out was to weaken its impact. I don’t know if that’s true, though I do recall the sudden poignancy of January 2nd; the big thing was over, just a memory—but a happy, intense memory. … [Read more...] about Christmas Longings: How Best to Savor the Holiday?
However, it wasn't just a matter of finding arsenic in the victim. At the time, arsenic could be detected in human organs, but there was as yet no method for measuring quantity, and defense attorneys were suggesting other ways that arsenic could enter the body, such as from hair products. … [Read more...] about Forensic Visionaries
Restless sleeping with lots of awakenings throughout the night Snoring or other breathing troubles Disruptive dreams A wired brain at night Needing to get up to go the bathroom often Feeling fatigued throughout the day Waking in the middle of the night and not being able to fall back asleep Whatever your issue is—whether it’s on this list or not—talk with your doctor and seek out a sleep specialist to get it resolved. Your whole year will be changed for the better. … [Read more...] about Tip For Sleeping Great in the New Year