Jessie Cuadros is a Certified EMDR therapist who specializes in grief and pregnancy loss. Her practice in Orlando Florida accommodates both in-person and telehealth services. She shared with me her passion to treat those who have lost a pregnancy via miscarriage , abortion, or stillbirth. I really wanted to chat with an expert to highlight this topic as it’s something I have encountered in my work as a couples therapist. People do not talk about this issue enough and many couples tell me the pain can feel so isolating even within their own relationship. Grief and Loss Source: Valeria Boltneva/Pexels Kari: Let’s start with EMDR. How do you explain this treatment to clients? Jessie: EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It is a special form of therapy that has been extensively researched and proven to help people recover from trauma and other distressing life experiences. EMDR is designed to resolve unprocessed traumatic … [Read more...] about How to Treat Grief and Pregnancy Loss
Markle shared that she had never experienced suicidal thoughts prior to this. There isn’t a certain type of person who fits this statistic. An individual’s environment plays a pivotal role in suicide prevention. We lose a life to suicide every 40 seconds. In a highly anticipated interview with Oprah Winfrey , the Duke and Duchess of Sussex candidly shared their decision to step back from their royal responsibilities. Of the many notable points was Meghan Markle’s disclosure of her suicidality . As she noted, “I just didn’t want to be alive anymore.” Meghan emphasized that her thoughts were clear, constant, and frightening. Markle’s courageous transparency echoes important reminders about mental wellness. Here are four foundational lessons explored in this interview that can help us to better understand and promote suicide prevention. 1. Mental health problems can arise for anyone. According to the World Health Organization , we lose a life to suicide every … [Read more...] about What Meghan Markle Shares About Her Mental Health
Source: Wikipedia Commons Might You Be Living in the Past Without Knowing It? Because of earlier insecurities, rejections, and failures, too many of us harbor defeatist attitudes. And however unconsciously, our never-resolved self-doubts can easily compromise our future. They do so by restraining us from taking on challenges that could serve to transform false conclusions we (prematurely) came to about ourselves. Afflicted with such disparaging, undermining beliefs, we can end up achieving far less than what, potentially, we’re capable of. Our self-aversive, out-of-date programming holds us back from evolving into the person we so much want to be—but may, unawares, have surrendered striving to be. Let me explain this all-too-common pattern in greater detail: How you see yourself today may have virtually everything to do with how you were induced to see yourself earlier—from events in your childhood and adolescence , to various disappointments and … [Read more...] about Don’t Allow Your Past to Control Your Future
Source: Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay Enlightenment is a term that feels elusive and vague. Some people associate it with a Hindu guru, sitting on top of a mountain contemplating the universe. Or a Buddhist monk living in a monastery, meditating daily. You may have experienced moments in your own life that felt magical and caused you to think “was that enlightenment?” One of my favorite definitions of enlightenment is from Lao Tzu, who references enlightenment as the Tao. “The Tao that can be told is not the eternal Tao. The name that can be named is not the eternal name.” This definition may not seem helpful if you’re seeking a more concrete definition of enlightenment is, versus what enlightenment is not. So what is enlightenment? In the West, we often refer to enlightenment as self-actualization. Whatever definition we use, the ultimate understanding of enlightenment is this: It’s the highest level we can reach as humans, in our lifetime. Whether it’s through our … [Read more...] about Defining and Seeking Enlightenment
Actor Joaquin Phoenix raised this question a few weeks ago in his acceptance speech for Best Actor at the Oscars . He alluded to practices of dairy farming, characterized them as an example of speciesism, and suggested that going vegan is the solution to both inhumane farming and speciesism. Let’s take a closer look. In the U.S., inhumane farming happens: No question about it. As commentators and critics, including Phoenix, have documented, factory farm practices can be equivalent to torture . Hens spend their lives indoors, packed so tightly in cages that they cannot move, with their beaks cut and their feet growing into the bars of their cages; cows spend their lives indoors on concrete, packed into a barn, fed corn and soybeans, and shot up with growth hormone . These are just some of the animals that deserve our fierce and ardent protection. Yet if a majority of the country went vegan, while the demand for animal products would surely plummet, that drop would do … [Read more...] about What Should I Eat, Animals or Plants?