Think of the mind as a computer. Think of emotional regulation as computer software. Where can we get an app that will let us regulate our arousal and our emotional response? According to researcher Allan Schore, we download that app from our primary caregiver. Emotional regulation, he says, is "relationship dependent." Perhaps you’ve seen this. Someone speaks to a child in a way that recognizes him or her as a real person. The child’s parent is surprised to see how cooperatively the child responds. Unfortunately, many parents speak to their children in a way that keeps them from learning to regulate arousal and emotion. You may think that’s a stretch, but it isn’t. The ability to regulate ourselves emotionally is developed early in life. How well this ability develops depends upon the child’s relationship with those who are important to the child. The development of good self-regulation requires high quality conscious and … [Read more...] about Emotional Regulation: Is There an App For That?
Work done by Jerome Schultz, Ph.D. suggests that when people who have ADHD (in his case, children) and who don’t understand the label ‘ADHD’ take on the negative stereotypes often associated with the condition rather than see themselves as a greater 'whole.' This isn’t a huge surprise. All you have to do is stand around for a while in a school hallway before you hear “Oh, that’s so ADD!” It’s not a compliment. Adults with ADHD know this all too well – they’ve lived it. For years people told them they were inadequate, ought to try harder, never learned, or were stupid (because they didn’t test well or had problems with memory)…this list goes on and on. Sadly, many of them believed it because they didn’t have another explanation. Take ‘stupid’ – a child with ADHD might be exceptionally smart yet test poorly because s/he reads slowly (a common issue … [Read more...] about The ‘A’ Word