The above books and countless others clearly show that dogs are deeply feeling and highly sentient beings, unique individuals with a wide range of personalities who are very much part of our lives, and that it is the shared emotions -- what I like to call "social glue" -- between these amazing nonhuman animals (animals) and humans that are at the root of our close and enduring friendships. Dogs actively make choices about the humans with whom they bond (and many other things), these choices can change over time, they are not unconditional lovers who think and feel all humans can or will be their best friends forever, and they need to feel free to make the choices that best suit them. Thinking of dogs as machines who don't consciously make and refine their choices -- what they want and what they need -- is severely outdated and incredibly unscientific, and those who once favored this reductionist view are in an extremely small and ever dwindling minority … [Read more...] about Your Dog and You: A New Book About Forming Close Friendships
Arousal, alarm, fear, and danger can be conflated even when a person has not experienced physical trauma. Julian Ford, professor of psychiatry at the University of Connecticut School of Medicine, explains that the most complex form of trauma is not physical but psychological. Psychological trauma involves “interactions with people who teach the child or adolescent to focus on danger and survival rather than on trust and learning.” If these interactions occur early in childhood, while the brain is particularly malleable, “lasting changes in the personality and the self occur.” Since arousal equals fear, and fear equals danger, stress hormones that trigger arousal cause alarm. When arousal occurs, instead of feeling curious and going into a learning mode, the person fears danger and goes into a survival mode. As an adult, the person is subject to “entrenched expectations of danger that lead to preoccupation with detecting and defending against … [Read more...] about Do We All Hate the Idea That Something Is Wrong With Us?
Never have I been more gobsmacked by that question than early this summer, when early childhood trauma I’d spent a lifetime trying to avoid came screeching out. This all happened to come along at a time when I had truly established myself “out there” as a person who shared her dark to find her light. My company, Light Hustle, was successfully helping people write and publish and sell books. I had made my life philosophy clear in the world: if you share the things that have brought you the most shame, you will heal and help others to as well. … [Read more...] about But I Thought the Rules Didn’t Apply to Me?
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