Sections SEARCH Skip to content Skip to site index Family Subscribe Log In Log In Today’s Paper Advertisement Supported by We had started down the path of honoring our mother’s wish to have a good death until a hospice nurse figured out that she wasn’t really dying. ByMonona A. Yin Oct. 23, 2018 Three years ago, my family and I had the experience of going through a full “dress rehearsal” for my mother’s demise. At 83, she had become alarmingly weak from stage IV lymphoma and atrial fibrillation, and asked me and my brother to come home to Delaware for her next oncologist visit. Mom had already undergone chemotherapy and cardioversion, so we knew there were few treatment options left. Still, we were utterly unprepared when the doctor said, “She probably has less than six months,” and recommended that she begin hospice care. Widowed at just 37 with two small children, Mom has … [Read more...] about A Dress Rehearsal for Death
0 Have your say Death and dying is something that will affect every person in the world, irrespective of culture, faith, socioeconomic status or politics. Most of us have already had experience of losing someone close, and many of us are supporting a friend, neighbour or relative whose health is in irreversible decline. Some readers may be facing this reality themselves. Palliative care is a frequently misunderstood term. Put simply, it is aimed at supporting someone faced with dying due to irreversible deteriorating health.This can take many forms, such as controlling pain, providing practical help in their own home, addressing psychological distress, fear or anxiety, or helping people wrestle with spiritual issues, such as the purpose of life. Palliative care is about helping people to live well in the days, weeks, months before they die.There is overwhelming evidence for the positive impact of good palliative … [Read more...] about Dr Paul Baughan: It’s good to talk about life and death – something that affects us all
Henry Fersko-Weiss wants to help you die. He’d like to spiritually and emotionally guide you through the process, if you’ll let him. You would be one of hundreds of people he’s aided as they gave the bucket a final, resounding kick.Fersko-Weiss is a death doula. Death doulas are volunteers and professionals who assist and support patients as they naturally pass on. Whether you’ve received a fatal diagnosis or are a withering baby boomer, you can hire these doulas to guide you through the dying process. They’ll help you make amends, say goodbye to your family, and create a death plan. Whether you want to blast the Grateful Dead as you go or be buried at sea, doulas are the people who help make it happen. Advertisement - Continue Reading Below Fersko-Weiss isn’t just a death doula—he’s the death doula. He created the first end of life doula program in the U.S. after working in hospice care for years, and then founded the International End … [Read more...] about Death Is Inevitable. His Job Is to Help You Go in Peace.
Anita Neff may not be the last person you’d want to meet, but she may be the person you’d want to meet last.“I’m a death angel,” she said.As an end-of-life doula, Neff sits with the dying and their families. She attends to matters material — is the will up-to-date? Do you have passwords for online accounts? — and spiritual. Some clients want to exit this world to the sound of Neff praying or reading poetry. Others prefer recorded music, from Gregorian chants to the Grateful Dead, or the soothing aroma of fresh wood shavings.“Everybody has their own thing,” she said.The shroud awaits us all, but it doesn’t have to be a one-size-fits-all garment. A broad-based, loosely-linked movement — call it the New Death — questions how, why and when we depart, as well what constitutes a good death. Inspired by a wide range of beliefs (and non-beliefs), these activists are united by a common desire to make dying less painful and … [Read more...] about Going this way? Death is still inevitable, but ‘angels’ and cafes want to change our last days
PUTTING on a brave face around cancer is depriving many patients of a good death, a report warns. The pressure to be upbeat means victims do not have an honest conversation about their final days, it adds. Campaigners warn that thousands of patients end up dying in hospital against their wishes as a result. Macmillan Cancer Support blames endless “fighting talk” for leaving cancer sufferers unprepared for their final days — even when they have a terminal diagnosis. One in four cancer victims admit it is hard to be open because they must be seen as fighters. Adrienne Betteley, of Macmillan Cancer Support, said: “For some the effort of keeping up a brave face is exhausting and unhelpful in the long-term. MOST READ IN HEALTHMIND OVER MATTER What are the symptoms of anxiety, how can it be treated and who else suffers? From Zayn Malik to Will Young SHOCK DISCOVERY Tiny BRAIN found inside a grapefruit-sized tumour on 16-year-old's ovary NOT JUST SPOTS! Six common … [Read more...] about Putting on a brave face around cancer could deprive patients of good death