Missing Each Other Source: Pete Garceau / PublicAffairs Many stories have been told about extraordinary feats accomplished by advanced practitioners of meditation or yoga, including the seemingly magical control they have of their own bodies and physiology. If anyone should have such powers, it would be His Holiness the Dalai Lama, one of the great meditation masters of our time. Once, at a public talk, a close friend of the Dalai Lama’s, Professor Robert Thurman of Columbia University, was asked very directly about this. Had Professor Thurman ever seen the Dalai Lama perform a miracle or do something magical? He didn’t know how to answer. He’d seen some remarkable things happen around the Dalai Lama, but perhaps His Holiness wouldn’t approve if Professor Thurman seemed to exaggerate his abilities or proselytize. As he was mulling over how to reply, Thurman’s wife, Nena, also a close friend of His Holiness, spoke up and said that she’d seen him perform plenty of … [Read more...] about We’ve Been Missing Each Other for a Long Time
Source: Prawny/Pixabay Around Valentine's Day, oxytocin (aka the "love hormone ") references seem to proliferate. It's not surprising that the so-called "cuddle molecule" or "potion of devotion" is associated with the fourteenth of February, Cupid's arrows, and some people's desire for a monogamous lifelong partner. Oxytocin-related research also tends to make headlines in mid-February; this year is no exception. A new study ( Grebe et al., 2021 ) published on February 12 in Scientific Reports puts oxytocin in the spotlight, but there's a twist. Nicholas Grebe and his colleagues at Duke University who study lemurs—our close primate cousins from the Island of Madagascar, whose 105 species evolved in isolation there for millions of years—have discovered that having lots of oxytocin receptors in the brain doesn't automatically make every mammal monogamous. According to a press release , this "new research suggests the brain circuitry that makes love last in some species … [Read more...] about More Evidence That Oxytocin Isn’t a Universal “Love Hormone”
“I hate it! I’ve gained 14 pounds.” Becky, a depressed client I was seeing, was complaining about the weight she’d gained since starting on Celexa. She was thinking of quitting the antidepressant, but Becky wasn’t alone — other clients I've treated for depression would complain about gaining weight on their antidepressants . Source: Edward Abramson, PhD Some depressed people lose weight because they’ve lost their appetite . They would complain, “Nothing tastes good,” but they were in the minority. More often depression was linked to increased appetite and more eating, usually a lot of carbs, either sweets like cookies and brownies or other calorically dense foods like pizza or French fries. Typically the clients were trying to feel better and lift their mood by eating favorite foods but some clients denied that they were eating more because of their depression. Instead, they attributed their increased weight to the antidepressant medication they were taking. … [Read more...] about Is That Antidepressant Making You Fat?
This is the last of the lessons our new dog Emma has taught us since she joined our family on November 3, 2020. For the most part, these lessons have been inspired by what we have seen happening at her end of the leash, so to speak. But they are really about life at our end more than at hers. Before concluding this five-part Emma series at The Human Animal , therefore, I want to say a few things about being human. Our human weaknesses Source: Unknown author / National Printing & Engraving Company, Chicago / edited by Papa Lima Whiskey / Public domain via Wikimedia Commons Let's face it, we humans think we can act like God. We not only play with fire, but also try to bend reality to suit not just our needs, but also our whims and fancies. Sometimes we can get away with this, but not always. As the poet Alexander Pope famously wrote at the beginning of the eighteenth century: A little learning is a dangerous thing . History shows that it is easy for those of … [Read more...] about What Our New Dog Is Teaching Us About Life
Source: freepikdotcom The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines proxemics as “the study of the nature, degree, and effect of the spatial separation individuals naturally maintain (as in various social and interpersonal situations) and of how this separation relates to environmental and cultural factors.” The concept of proxemics originated from cultural anthropologist Edward Hall, and is one of the facets of the study of nonverbal communication . One of the most interesting and important aspects of proxemics is the idea of space – how arrangement and set-up of physical space defines power and control in relationships. This is true in whether the space is office, family home, couple’s dwelling, or a roommate’s apartment. The arrangement of space often directly or indirectly suggests power, and the degree of equality or inequality in a relationship. Below are some case scenarios, with references from my books How to Successfully Handle Aggressive, Intimidating, and … [Read more...] about 3 Ways Physical Space Defines Power in Relationships