In contrast, if Mom isn’t responsive to our needs, we acquire an insecure attachment style. Our intuitions are biased toward a fundamental distrust of others, and this lack of trust impacts every close relationship in our lives. When we need emotional support from others, we either become overly demanding, or else we retreat in solitude to lick our wounds. And since we’re not used to receiving appropriate emotional support, we don’t know how to give it either. … [Read more...] about How Good Is Your “Romantic Competence”?
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The success speaks for itself. In addition to his undeniable success with Styx, DeYoung has continued to have a successful solo career. DeYoung recently completed his solo album 26 East, Vol. 1 (2020). And depending on the management of the pandemic, DeYoung is hoping to embark on a North American tour this spring celebrating over 40 years since The Grand Illusion was made. And yet, of all the hard-nosed realities he’s faced professionally, one that he perhaps didn’t expect was that achieving success doesn’t extinguish those fears and the need for approval. “The best part about what happened to me in the final analysis is, perhaps, I left some small mark on the world — small. And I was able to provide very nicely for my family, which is never to be discounted. Never. When your dream comes true, then what? ... We finally hit it with The Grand Illusion and sold 4 million albums. No. I thought I'd feel better. I felt the same. Talk to any real successful … [Read more...] about How Dennis DeYoung Helped Me Face the Life Ahead of Me
The ride is bumpy at times. Fallon said that Clutch’s artistic risks can be confusing for some fans. “I think there are people that I meet now who are my age and listened to that when they were adolescents who haven’t let go of that and they want to hear ‘old-school shit,’” he said. “And I always scratch my head and feel bad that that’s all they want to. I figure that sometimes when fans of an artist want to hear that one record, what they’re actually asking the artist to do is to transport them back in time to a better place, when that soundtrack is something they want to relive over and over and over again. And that’s all well and good, but to do that for 20 years … I can’t imagine doing the same dog-and-pony show over and over again, especially when it’s based in anger. That’s exhausting.” … [Read more...] about The Universal Truth of Clutch’s Neil Fallon
Simply put, internal locus of control is good, whereas an external locus of control is bad, according to Julian B. Rotter, who developed the construct in the 1950s. Individuals with a strong internal locus of control believe that they are in control of their lives. They believe that their own actions and decisions influence the outcome and direction of their lives. Their fortune, good or bad, is due to what they did or didn't do. One's own ability, effort, and actions determine what happens. Whereas persons with a strong external locus of control believe that what happens to them is due to outside factors. What happens is largely out of their control. The good that happens to them is due to fate, luck, chance, or magic and they blame others for their misfortune. … [Read more...] about Do You Believe in Relationship Magic?
Keep in mind that reducing harm and seeing the truth of things is the key purpose of mindfulness. Just noticing things by using nonjudging awareness only takes you half the way there! You then need to discern and evaluate what you are noticing. Only then can you wisely make choices that reduce harm to yourself and others by knowingly moving in another direction. This is a real exercise of free will and the power of Volitional Attention. … [Read more...] about Two Words Stop Toxic Habits and Addiction in Their Tracks