Source: pixabay “True confession consists of telling our deed in such a way that our soul is changed in the telling it.” —Maude Petre We hear a lot about the importance of forgiving those who have harmed us, but what about forgiving ourselves? Is that important as well? I believe that it is. When we harm someone it is normal and healthy to feel bad about it, to experience regret and to wish we could take it back or do something to make the person feel better. What isn’t healthy is to continually beat ourselves up for our offense and to determine that we are a bad person because of it. The first experience is generally thought of as guilt while the second is considered to be shame (There is little agreement, even among professional therapists, as to the exact difference between guilt and shame so I don’t want to get sidetracked into discussing this controversy. For our purposes, I will present what I consider to be the most … [Read more...] about Healing Your Shame and Guilt Through Self-Forgiveness
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What makes something erotic? Sex is not new; nor the idea that erotic taste varies from person to person. Some like big, some small, wild, or cultured, vixen or modest, ripped or boy next door, tall, or short, settled or a nomad, in charge or submissive, loving or selfish. Personality counts as well. Pick up Plato’s 2500 year old dialogue on love called The Symposium. The main character, Socrates, had no money, no looks and no position. But he was charismatic, brilliant and compelling, and others found him exciting. Or to be more modern, consider a scene by Game of Thrones author, George R.R. Martin. In it, Jon Snow, the son of a Lord, finds nomadic Ygritte, truly compelling: At a lord’s court the girl (Ygritte) would never have been considered anything but common, he (Jon) knew. She had a round peasant face, a pug nose and slightly crooked teeth, and her eyes were too far apart…Lately, though he was noticing some other things. … [Read more...] about What Makes Something Sexy?
Home Insync Life Life oi-Denise By Denise Baptiste | Updated: Wednesday, December 17, 2014, 10:04 [IST] Former beauty queen Aishwarya Rai Bachchan received the Most Successful Miss World Award in London. At the Miss World 2014 event, Aishwarya Rai looked stunning in a Roberto Cavalli silver gown. The evening gown she chose to wear for the event surely made a lot of heads turn. Though there were a million women on stage who were a part of the Miss World 2014, Aishwarya Rai looked 'the' best! The Roberto Cavalli silver gown on this beauty was an attention seeking one and she did get a lot of eyes. Smiling gracefully on stage, it was a proud moment for this beautiful actress. At the Miss World 2014, Aishwarya's husband Abhishek, daughter Aaradhya and mother Vrunda Rai too were present. Abhishek looked dapper in a black tuxedo standing next to his wife on stage. Their daughter too was such a cute image, dressed in pink. At the Miss World 2014, Aishwarya Rai's Roberto … [Read more...] about GLAMOROUS: Aishwarya Rai In Roberto Cavalli Gown At Miss World 2014
Source: Courtesy of Colleen Plumb A few months ago, I learned about the important work of artist Colleen Plumb in an outstanding essay by Julia Cooke called "Can an Artist Help Captive Elephants Win Legal Personhood?" I was intrigued by the power of Ms. Plumb's artwork and the stunning images of elephants who are held captive by humans for human entertainment. In her piece Ms. Cooke writes: Plumb’s elephants are literally many, but in video they appear as one. For her multimedia project, Thirty Times a Minute, she filmed video of their rocking and swaying, bobbing their heads and swinging their trunks, pacing in their cages or seeming almost to dance. She created a video loop of this stereotypic behavior, the pachyderm’s reaction to the constraints of captivity—in the wild, elephants walk up to 50 miles a day—and named it after an elephant’s heartbeat. Circus handlers have been known to explain stereotypic behavior to curious crowds … [Read more...] about Animals, Exploitation, and Art: The Work of Colleen Plumb
Source: MoToMo, flickr In writing The Happiness Project and Happier at Home, I thought a lot about what I can do to make my romantic life better. In general, I’m a fan of using milestone days to prompt me to think about changes I might undertake to make myself happier, healthier, more productive, or more creative. Certain days, such as January 1 or my birthday, remind me to reflect on my life and my hopes for the future. Recently, Inauguration Day prompted me to think about the highest ideals of the United States, and how I can live up to them, in my own life. And Valentine’s Day is a great reminder to think about my romance! My husband Jamie is the love of my life, but sometimes I don’t treat him with courtesy or interest. I have to remind myself — don’t be nicer to a stranger on the street than I am to my own husband. (In fact, research shows that married people often show more … [Read more...] about For Valentine’s Day: 7 Mistakes I Keep Making in Romance…