Author's Transparency Declaration: I have a financial interest in a company that offers products and services that may be related to the content of my writings. Source: bet news/Fair Use Psychology is dedicated to the betterment of the psychological health of society and its members. The anti-bullying psychology has accomplished the opposite. It has resulted in a growing bullying epidemic while wreaking havoc on people’s personalities, instilling a self-defeating victim mentality that avoids personal responsibility and placing blame on society for one’s own horrific actions. Now, even when we commit murder, the most egregious of all crimes, it is scientifically legitimate to blame society. One of the highest-profile bullying stories of 2017 was the fatal stabbing of 15-year-old Matthew McRee by 18-year-old Abel Cedeno in a Bronx school on Sept. 27. Cedeno also seriously wounded a second student, Ariane LaBoy, 16. The leading psychologists in the … [Read more...] about I Killed My Classmate, So I’m Suing My School
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Rembrandt's "Belshazzar's Feast," circa 1635-1638, National Gallery in London, Room 24, based on the Biblical story in the Book of Daniel. Source: Wikipedia Commons/Public Domain Preparing for a great palace feast, King Belshazzar, an ungodly man, commanded his underlings to fetch the golden vessels that his father Nebuchadnezzar had confiscated from the temple in Jerusalem. He and a thousand of his lords, so the Book of Daniel tells us, drank from these holy goblets and praised “the gods of silver, gold, brass, iron, wood and stone.” Suddenly, there appeared “fingers of a man’s hand” that inscribed the famous four words on the palace wall. Alarmed and much shaken, Belshazzar assembled his soothsayers and astrologers, none of whom could interpret the strange words. The Queen, though, suggested they send for righteous Daniel, who interpreted this “handwriting on the wall” as a sign from God: “God hath numbered the days of your … [Read more...] about The Handwriting on the Wall: Menu Labeling
The other day, I posted a list of things I was happy about as I turned 70, including accomplishments/satisfactions in the career, family, exercise, and culinary arenas. I meant it as a bit of positive psychology – all that optimism, resilience, gratitude, and well-being sort of thing. But the post received one comment that I hadn’t quite anticipated, from someone who said: “I am only 50 and I suffer from painful and debilitating arthritis. And no, I wasn't a couch potato. It's hereditary. So count your blessings and maybe try not to be quite so smug.” I actually was counting my blessings when I wrote that last post, because the truth is that my real reaction was absolute amazement to be reaching 70 at all, and still functioning to boot. The word “smug” has a lot of connotations, one of which is complacent, and some of the other synonyms include arrogant and self-satisfied. I did worry that some might find me … [Read more...] about What If Your Life Isn’t Going So Well?
Suspicious Minds, By Joel Gold and Ian Gold A Book Review by Dr. Lloyd Sederer When I was a medical student on an arranged rotation in England I spent two weeks living in a mental hospital outside of London. Day in and day out I lived among the patients, took my meals with them, played cards with them, watched TV with them – though I slept in a small room separate from the wards. I had almost no experience with mental illness. It was all amazing and confusing to me, especially how many of the patients had such crazy ideas, which they were often eager to share with this American novice. One woman, in her 30s, let’s call her Kathleen Biggs, had elaborate ideas about how she had been chosen to save civilization. But she was afraid that enemies, always lurking, would interfere with her mission by killing her or her family before she could succeed. She was bright, educated, and took care with her appearance and habits. One day near the end of my stay we were having our daily … [Read more...] about Suspicious Minds: A Book Review by Dr. Lloyd Sederer
Source: Cheryl Empey/FreeImages So much has already been written about why and how to remove the excess stuff from our lives. Still, there must be many others like me who are suckers for any inspiration we can get to simplify our lives and homes. Thus, new declutter books appear with regularity. Sure, it's a worthwhile dream that getting rid of your parents' and grandparents' tchotchke, not to mention many of your own now-regretted impulse buys, will free up more time and energy. Sometimes I wonder, though, if decluttering itself can become an obsession to the point where the declutterer's to-do list is never-ending. That alone can cause a lot of marital discord. (Ask me how I know.) Realistically and ethically, there is a limit to how much you can get rid of without the agreement of its owner, a.k.a., your mate or your kids. I bounce between longing for clear counters, space on my shelves, fewer duplicates of stuff, fewer items being kept for decades just in case, and believing I … [Read more...] about Clear Thinking About Decluttering: 8 Insights