If you're at a crossroads with your marriage, ask yourself if your spouse is on your team, if you are honest with each other, if you spend quality time together, if you turn toward your marriage for solutions, and if you have asked for help. … [Read more...] about 5 Things Couples Do That Lead to Divorce
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3. Challenge yourself to grow. When in a close relationship it is inevitable that we engage in psychological projection. Projection is a defense mechanism where we protect ourselves from feeling vulnerable by denying our feelings or inadequacies and attributing them to others. When we become intimate and close with a partner the lines become blurred. It can be hard to separate out what we struggle with versus what we are accusing them of struggling with. Accusing your partner that he/she “can’t communicate” may mean communicating is a challenge for you. Or, accusing your partner of not being open with you may mean that you struggle with closeness and intimacy as well. Take some time to consider how you need to grow as an individual to have a healthier relationship. Journal and write about what specific skill sets you need to improve and write down steps to get there. Even if your partner is not on board, you can still grow and try out what you are learning. … [Read more...] about Feeling Stuck in Your Romantic Relationship?
“For drugs like heroin, the notion of addiction is relatively uncontroversial…For a not-quite-so-strong drug like cocaine, it becomes less clear as to where the boundary between regular use and addiction lies. Looking at the more popular alcohol, some people get addicted to it, and some don't…There is the weaker notion of "psychological dependence", which implies that you will miss not having something, but not to the extent that you would deem yourself to be suffering. I think that might be a fair description of many people's relationship with music…So, is music a drug? The short answer is ‘yes, sort of’”. … [Read more...] about Going For a Song
Here groups of researchers, faculty members, and trainees go through a paper and dissect every aspect from the rationale to the methodology and ultimately the data analysis and conclusions. Again this is very time-consuming work, even for experts. So how can an individual, who is not a trained scientist, possibly hope to truly digest the ramifications of a scientific study? This is particularly true when the popular science press, generally the source of the link to the paper, in an understandable attempt to abstract the work to create a fundamental take-home message useful and interesting to the reader, might not place the work in the appropriate context, or view it with sufficient skepticism. … [Read more...] about How to Best Approach COVID-19 Research
Most cancer patients can remember at least one well-meaning comment from a friend who, attempting to be helpful, sets us into an emotional tailspin instead. My favorite were the people who hadn’t seen me for a while but knew I’d had cancer, who greeted me with, “How are you?” in a tone of pity-surprise-confusion that implied, at least to me, “Oh, you’re still alive, huh?” … [Read more...] about Improve Your Mood After A Cancer Diagnosis