People are in need during the pandemic. Can you volunteer at a food bank or drop off a little extra to a family you know doesn’t have enough? Can you cut your neighbor’s lawn or walk their dog? Can you take a phone call from someone who needs to talk, and just listen? Can you offer the lemons or peaches on your tree to neighbors? Can you cut a few flowers for an elderly person to enjoy? There are so many ways to help others that cost little or no money and can be done with safety measures in mind. When we are of service to others, we aren’t thinking about our own problems, and we become spreaders of hope. … [Read more...] about 7 Ways to Cultivate Hope, Even in Trying Times
Constructive ways to deal with stress
The process of identifying, reevaluating, and challenging these problematic thoughts—the essence of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)—is sometimes referred to as cognitive restructuring. When you discuss managing troubling thoughts with children and teens, the term, ANTS, (automatic negative thoughts) may resonate more readily with them. Whatever words best echo this crucial message, we must teach and encourage children to spot and learn to dispute the following upsetting thought patterns! These self-sabotaging thoughts not only lead to school stress, but also to peer struggles, body image issues, and family conflicts. … [Read more...] about 7 Thoughts That Make Children and Teens Feel Miserable
2. The Sheer Amount of Change Is Stressful and Exhausting Researchers have long understood that the main thing that determines how stressful an event is is the amount of change that it requires in one's life, and forced isolation changes everything. We are no longer doing the same things at the same time in the same places with the same people—and this is exhausting. … [Read more...] about Five Reasons Why Being Home All the Time Is So Hard
We take this approach because we misunderstand the true nature of our emotions. They are seen as mere messages sent from the brain to the conscious mind. This leads to the mistaken belief that you can become blissfully happy by simply suppressing the bad and chasing the good. But emotions are not solid and pure entities. They are flexible entities that are both message and messenger sent from the deepest reaches of the psyche. When it comes to emotion, the medium really is the message. So in practice, if you try to suppress the message, then the dutiful messenger will keep on coming back to pester you until you have felt the emotion it is trying to convey. And each time you turn away the messenger, it will try a little harder to find another way of conveying its message. With each twist of the cycle, the message will become more and more distorted and powerful so that even the mildest of ‘negative’ emotions can become an intense spikey knot of pain. … [Read more...] about Should You Try To “Get Over” Grief?
You have all heard me extol the benefits of bone broths so now it’s time, as a recovering vegetarian, to return to my roots (pun intended!) and share with you the benefits of vegetable broths. Where bone broths energize, vegetable broths help us to relax. In these stressful times, we all need a way to take care of ourselves and nourish our brain, mind and body with foods that are easy to digest. Digestion requires relaxation because it is governed by the parasympathetic nervous system, which releases the enzymes juices and movement of digestion. This is one of my favorite broths and it's easy to make. I make it weekly as a stock for soups or a broth by itself to sip, since by the end of the week I have a tubful of vegetable ends and pieces of roots I didn’t use throughout the week. I place the carrot tops, ends of onions greens and other veggies I cut off when making salad, and place them in a container in the fridge until I have enough to make this … [Read more...] about A Recipe for Energy and Adrenal Health