Laughing at the swoop of an island gull apparently determined to feather her nest with my hair, therapist Belleruth Naparstek drops into a white wicker rocker on the porch of her Victorian house overlooking Oak Bluffs Harbor on Martha's Vineyard and kicks off her Birkenstocks. "Want something to drink?" she asks. "Iced tea? Water?" Grateful that the gull has taken off after more cooperative prey, I shake my head no and lean back in my own rocker with a sigh of contentment. The two of us may never move again. We're stuffed with codfish chowder from The Black Dog Tavern over in Vineyard Haven, and we're lazy with the rhythm of island life. We've spent most of the afternoon cruising the island in Belleruth's sweet little Saab convertible, and now we're sitting barefoot in the late afternoon sun on her porch, swapping stories about husbands, kids, friends, moms, and the women who enrich our lives. It's one of those timeless moments between two women when all is right with the world. But … [Read more...] about Healing With Your Sixth Sense
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When we asked 50 female friends what male skills impressed them most, the results surprised us: Out of 25 skills we asked about, hunting for dinner finished last. But the women did tell us this: Mastering one of these five moves is your best chance of making a near-perfect impression. Cooking Dinner for Her(Percentage of women extremely impressed: 86) The trick: Make a meal that looks difficult but actually leaves little room for error, like this recipe from Barbara Pool Fenzl, owner of Les Gourmettes Cooking School in Phoenix. Rub a southwestern-style spice (something with cumin or chili powder) into a 11/2-pound pork tenderloin. Cut it into six pieces. Place each piece in the center of a corn husk that you've soaked in water for 1 hour (find husks in the Latino sections of most grocery stores). Wrap the husk around the meat and bake at 375 F for 25 to 30 minutes. To serve, pull back one side of the husk and top the meat with salsa. Holding a Baby without Looking … [Read more...] about How to Impress a Woman
My two Jack Russell terriers are so ecstatic when I come home that one quivers uncontrollably with glee while the other rolls onto her back and pees. It is quite the welcoming committee. They both think I'm the greatest thing since Milk-Bones.Now contrast this to the lukewarm (if any) reception my family gives me when I walk through the door. My wife of many years has long since stopped wagging her tail at me, and my daughter, who recently moved back home after graduating from college, is just generally pissed.This got me thinking. What do my dogs see in me that people don't? And, most important, is there a way to make the fine qualities that my dogs sense and respect more apparent to people I want to impress? What would it take to be the man my dogs think I am?Experts in canine psychology—yes, there is such a breed—say one of the reasons dogs worship humans is simply that we feed, shelter, protect, and pet them, providing all the necessities of life. But I like to think … [Read more...] about Be the Man Your Dog Thinks You Are
I thought the smell of Ivory on a man's skin turned me on most, but science has outed my inner beast. A new study from the University of California, Berkeley found that after female subjects inhaled androstadienone, a molecule found in male sweat, they reported feeling happier and hornier. Add this news to evidence that estratetraenol, estrogen's cousin, stimulates the male brain, and it's no wonder companies are bottling pheromones (libido-triggering hormones) to enhance our natural supply. But do they really work? To find out, I doused myself in the latest pheromone perfume and products to test their effect on my sexual attraction -- and the flared nostrils of random guys.To set the moodI let the sugary scent of the Lighten Up Sensual Candle fill my apartment before showering with very berry Bubbles Bath & Shower Gel and coating my arms, legs, and chest with floral Body Dew oil mist -- all from Pure Romance ($10 to $13 for 8 oz, pureromance.com). Too bad the blend sent me into … [Read more...] about Scent of A Woman
"Are you all right?" the lifeguard screams. "Do you need help?" I've swallowed a lot of lake water and can't answer. Gasping for breath, I glimpse my fellow Scouts lining the dock. We're at Camp Minsi in Pennsylvania's Pocono Mountains, trying to earn our Swimming merit badge. What they can't vocalize I can see in their wide eyes: The old guy might die!But I manage to catch my breath and paddle to the ladder without needing rescue. I climb up, embarrassed and exhausted, and remove my goggles.One boy looks up at me with a puzzled expression and asks, "What are you doing here?"Good question. Forty-five years ago, after earning the rank of Bear in Cub Pack 47, I quit Scouting. Despite being on the cusp of Webelos, I was annoying my den mother and sucked at tying knots.Plus, my nemesis Mike Warminsky already had so many merit badges that I could never dream of catching up. He was heading for Eagle, and I headed for the door.Besides, a buddy had shown me how to erase the … [Read more...] about Are You Man Enough for Boy Scout Camp?