Popular maxims attest to the pervasive belief that men are always ready and eager to bed almost any woman: Men have only one thing on their minds. Men lust; women want to feel desired. What single word can women say to sexually arouse men? Hello. Chances are you’ve heard one or more of these, which attests to the prevalence of assumptions about rampant male lust. But sexual urgency, the feeling that I need sex now , is age-related. Yes, lust can animate many young men—and many young women and non-binary individuals, too. But a recent study shows that after age 30, men’s desire for sex becomes more nuanced, more complex—and in contrast to the stereotype, more like women’s. The Study A team of largely women Canadian researchers conducted extensive semi-structured interviews with 30 men, ages 30 to 65 (average age 43), all involved in heterosexual relationships for at least 2.5 years. The researchers limited their sample to 30 men for efficiency. A robust … [Read more...] about Do Men Really Burn With Insatiable Lust?
Often, parents do not understand the district landscape of their child’s school. A school bus arrives in the morning, the children disappear into it and then return in the afternoon, generally happy and having learned a new thing or two. This is not necessarily anyone’s fault; certainly, we have a long road ahead to improve school-to-community transparency. But knowing the right questions to ask of teachers and district leadership can best inform you on selecting an appropriate school for your child and how to fill in the many gaps inherent in the American education system. Understanding the local K12 school district landscape also better positions you to prepare your child for the harsh realities of the world, including the competitive international landscape they will be entering. The pandemic has shifted our communities, states, nation, and world. Schools are integral in developing necessary skills, such as problem-solving, critical thinking, and collaboration . … [Read more...] about How to Learn Your Local K12 School District Landscape
Source: Mohamed Hassan, Pixabay, Public Domain In a recent post, I offered four options for dealing with an asymmetrical relationship. But the advice was generic across all types of asymmetries. Here are thoughts regarding specific ones: Sexual desire. Only occasionally have my coaching clients improved by following the standard advice such as communicate your preferences, hang out in bed, and plan date nights. Certainly you might try those, using an experimental, playful mindset: And sometimes, a relationship or sex therapist can help further. But if reasonable efforts to cope with the problem are insufficient, it may be wise to accept your sexual asymmetry as one of your relationship's liabilities—Every relationship has them—and redirect at least some of your would-be-sexual time to activities that work better for the two of you, whether sports, cooking, TV watching, getting together with friends, whatever. Career . If one partner has a more prestigious … [Read more...] about 6 Areas of Relationship Asymmetry
Source: Uniraniano, CC 4.0, Wikimedia Hippocrates said, “First, do no harm.” That time-honored entreaty has implications far beyond medicine. But let’s start there. Medicine. As with all bumper-sticker advice, it’s simplistic. Sometimes, it's wise to choose to harm a patient in hopes of preventing worse harm. For example, surgeons cut out a cancer in hopes of preventing metastasis. Dentists perform a root canal to prevent more serious infection. Physical therapists ask patients to do painful exercises to avoid the sequela of atrophy. On the other hand, sometimes, physicians’ craving for understanding and to avoid being accused of inadequately responding motivates them to order tests and treatments that have poor cost-benefit. An obvious example is suggesting that a Stage 4 cancer patient undergo high-side-effect/low-payoff chemotherapy. Perhaps less obvious is when a doctor orders a test, the results of which would be interesting but doesn’t suggest a worthwhile treatment. … [Read more...] about “First Do No Harm”