Source: European hazard symbol, in the public domain on Wikimedia Commons Paul was charming, outgoing, and his mother’s favorite, while Sarah was the responsible big sister. “You need to take care of your little brother,” her mother would say. So Sarah became his rescuer, lending him money, which he never repaid, and covering up for his teenaged escapades. In their twenties, she began a successful career as a journalist, while he drifted into alcohol and drugs. With his urgent phone calls and desperate demands, he’d come to her with one crisis after another. She’d drop what she was doing to deal with his needs, then work through the night to meet her press deadlines. Exhausted and resentful, she felt she had no choice. She had to help him, he was “family,” and yet. . . . With no respect for boundaries or others’ needs, people like Paul are covert aggressors, using powerful tactics to manipulate and control us. At first, this seems … [Read more...] about Is There a Manipulator in Your Life?
In the hustle bustle of stressful family life, it can be great to spend special one-on-one time with each child. Kids adore the attention, the fun, and the indulgence of having one parent all to themselves. It can also be incredibly meaningful for parents. If you feel exhausted from doing laundry, dragging kids to swimming lessons, refereeing arguments, or cleaning up spills, having special time with just one child can put the zip back in your step, the magic back in the moment. "Special time" is a powerful tool to nurture a parent-child relationship. Positive parent-child relationships strengthen children's emotional well-being, attachment security, coping skills, school readiness and achievement, and future capacity for relationships. What makes special time special?It’s one-on-one. A child who is used to sharing you with a fussy newborn sister or a potty-training brother finally gets you, the most important person in his or her little life, … [Read more...] about 8 Ways to Make “Special Time” With Kids Even More Meaningful
Randolph Nesse’s Good Reasons for Bad Feelings is a book I would recommend as required reading for anyone practicing or hoping to practice, clinical psychology, psychiatry, or social work. In fact, I would recommend the book to anyone who suffers from anxiety, depression, or problems controlling their eating, drinking, drug use, or sexual impulses. Randy Nesse is an evolutionary psychiatrist. He is a founder of the field of evolutionary medicine, and is best known for his earlier book, Why We Get Sick: The New Science of Darwinian Medicine, which he wrote with George C. Williams, the eminent evolutionary biologist. Nesse was also one of the founders of the Human Behavior and Evolution Society, whose initial members were a group of intellectual giants who changed the face of modern evolutionary biology, psychology, and anthropology (E.O. Wilson, William Hamilton, Sarah Hrdy, Napoleon Chagnon, Leda Cosmides, Rob Boyd, Martin Daly, Margo … [Read more...] about When Is It Good for You to Feel Miserable?
Home Health Wellness Wellness oi-Staff By Super Admin on July 14, 2016 Men who are overweight or obese are nearly three times more at the risk of premature death than women, says a study. The findings showed that the premature deaths, defined as those at ages 35-69 years would be 29.5 per cent and 14.6 per cent for moderately obese men and women. This corresponds to an absolute increase of 10.5 per cent for men and 3.6 per cent for women, which is three times as big, as the risk of premature death in men with normal body mass index (BMI) is at 19 per cent and women at 11 per cent. The risk was found to increase steadily and steeply with the rise in BMI, the researchers said. "The study found that men who were obese were at much higher risk of premature death than obese women. This is consistent with previous observations that obese men have greater insulin resistance, liver fat levels and diabetes risk than women," said lead author Emanuele Di Angelantonio from the … [Read more...] about Obesity Raises Risk Of Premature Death In Men: Study
Google images: free to use or share The vacuum cleaner was a big, upright model, heavy and awkward. On my first day, I had trouble steering it and got sweaty and irritated. After a lot of yanking, shoving, and banging it on people’s doors, I wrestled the vacuum cleaner back into its closet and forgot about it. The rest of the day was calm and peaceful. But late that night, I awoke with a sharp pain in my right shoulder. I didn’t understand the source of the pain until after breakfast, when it was time to vacuum again. Mindfulness means paying attention to whatever is happening in the present moment, with an attitude of friendly curiosity and nonjudgmental acceptance. On a retreat, the goal is to be mindful of whatever you’re doing throughout the day. Participants are called yogis (a yogi is a student of meditation) and the housekeeping tasks are called yogi jobs. This means that the vacuuming, like everything else in retreat life, is an opportunity to practice … [Read more...] about Mindful Vacuuming