When Feda Almaliti, the late vice president of the National Council on Severe Autism, died on September 26 in a fire, together with her 15-year-old, severely autistic son Mu, who refused to leave the burning house, the tragedy broke me. Like every other parent of a child like Mu, I imagined myself pleading with my son – who, like Mu, could never understand the urgency, who has no comprehension of death, who is much too big to be carried or even dragged. I imagined myself faced with that impossible decision: Stay or go? As many in the autism community know, Feda stayed, and died with Mu in her arms. I couldn’t stop thinking about Feda as I read the new study, “Experiencing Social Connection: A Qualitative Study of Mothers of Nonspeaking Autistic Children,” by researchers from of the University of Virginia and the University of California, Santa Cruz. How could it be possible that, less than two months after her death, Vikram Jaswal et al. could publish a paper essentially … [Read more...] about Autism Mother-Blaming, Circa 2020
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Self-control is the key to success in most walks of life. Plenty of bright young people flunk out of school just because they’re bored or too easily distracted, and it’s the ones who are determined to stick it out despite the challenges that graduate. Likewise in the workforce, self-control is the key to the outstanding job performance that leads to raises and promotions. Another aspect of life where self-control is essential: intimate relationships. No matter how much you love your partner, there will be times when you’ll want to do something you know will hurt them. Impulsive partners wreck their relationships with their thoughtless misdeeds, while those with self-control hold their urges in check and keep their eye on the long-term. Less clear is whether self-control is also important when you’re looking for a romantic partner. On the one hand, if you exercise too much self-control, you might not follow up on potential dating opportunities that could lead to the love of … [Read more...] about Self-Control and Dating Success
As a follow-up to Part 1 on this subject, here are two more ways to improve control over your thinking and behavior. "Mind over matter" is a central theme in most religions. The idea is that proper spiritual belief gives you the strength to cope with the vicissitudes of life. Paradoxically, the most religious people, like monks, may not use their strength of faith to cope with life but actually escape worldly stress by living in monasteries or nunneries. Also, there is the problem that many people dismiss religion as superstition . Nonetheless, for those who do believe, the indisputable fact remains that it can affect your thinking and behavior. Source: tracy siermachesky shutterstock Literature surveys reveal a strong relationship between religiosity and self-control . Self-control in religious people is manifest in that they tend to suffer less from depression , avoid trouble with sex or drugs, do better in school, and even visit the dentist more … [Read more...] about How to Control Your Mind: The Link to Religion and Meditation
Less than 50 percent of Americans have received or want to receive a Covid-19 vaccine. 31 percent intend to “wait and see” and 20 percent of Americans do not want to be vaccinated. Americans' perception that leaders are incompetent, untruthful, and uncaring may be a factor in the hesitation or refusal to be vaccinated. Leaders who demonstrate competence, character and caring are needed to improve the number of Americans who are willing to be vaccinated. Safe and effective vaccinations for Covid-19 are here and more are on the way. The supply of vaccines is increasing and in the coming months anyone who wants to be vaccinated will be able to do so. To quell the pandemic, experts say that 80 to 90 percent of the population must become immune either through vaccination or by prior infection.[i] Given the massive effort to develop and distribute vaccines, this goal is achievable but only if enough people agree to be vaccinated. Covid-19 vaccine Source: … [Read more...] about Why People Might Reject a COVID-19 Vaccine
It took a pandemic for me to realize that I’m a closet introvert. Confession first: I never thought much about my own personality , but as a social-personality psychologist, I had conducted a lot of research on different personality traits, including Introversion - Extraversion . And although I had administered personality inventories that measured this I-E trait to others, I had never taken it myself. But, when it came up, people would say, “Ron, you’re obviously extraverted.” So, I went through life figuring I was on the extraverted side of the continuum. But, the pandemic has made me rethink that. During the forced COVID-19 lockdown I’ve sequestered myself in my office for most of the day, without any “live” human contact – meeting and teaching only on Zoom. And, I’ve thoroughly enjoyed it (and have gotten a ton of work done!). It made me reflect on personality (and Introversion-Extraversion in particular) and what we know about it. It’s Hard to Self-Assess … [Read more...] about Are You a Closet Introvert?