Source: Pixabay In one of my college classes, I used to ask the students to write down the names of three people who were their “heroes” and then to reflect on why they had chosen those particular people. Only some of the respondents were able to come up with three names for their list. Many included only people from their families, perhaps a mother or father or older sibling. Sometimes, they identified a loved one who was dealing forthrightly with a severe mental or physical challenge. As one might expect, the lists had many “public” figures, names the rest of us, or at least the members of their generation, would recognize. Of these, sports stars, actors, and musicians were predominant. Significantly, important politicians, business executives, or military figures rarely appeared. Instead, people listed leaders of social movements, non-establishment figures like Martin Luther King Jr. or Cesar Chavez. Pointedly, the students … [Read more...] about The Decline of the American Hero
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What makes something erotic? Sex is not new; nor the idea that erotic taste varies from person to person. Some like big, some small, wild, or cultured, vixen or modest, ripped or boy next door, tall, or short, settled or a nomad, in charge or submissive, loving or selfish. Personality counts as well. Pick up Plato’s 2500 year old dialogue on love called The Symposium. The main character, Socrates, had no money, no looks and no position. But he was charismatic, brilliant and compelling, and others found him exciting. Or to be more modern, consider a scene by Game of Thrones author, George R.R. Martin. In it, Jon Snow, the son of a Lord, finds nomadic Ygritte, truly compelling: At a lord’s court the girl (Ygritte) would never have been considered anything but common, he (Jon) knew. She had a round peasant face, a pug nose and slightly crooked teeth, and her eyes were too far apart…Lately, though he was noticing some other things. … [Read more...] about What Makes Something Sexy?
Home Relationship Love and romance Love And Romance oi-Prerna Aditi By Prerna Aditi on November 13, 2019 Even though we live in a country (India) where even today some people are sceptical about live-in relationships but let us tell us one thing, it is not wrong to do so, even when a huge part of the society fails to agree with it. It is the thought or the intent behind your actions that count the most. So, before moving in with your partner, it is also necessary that you are prepared for the changes or challenges that will come with it. Living together can bring you closer and will help you to adjust to the living habits of each other. However, we have created a list of important things that you need to keep in mind before you decide to move in with your partner. How Live-In Relationships Can Benefit Couples 1. Abundant Time To Spend With Self Since both of you will be sharing the same living space, you will be having a great amount of time to spend together. You … [Read more...] about 6 Things To Keep In Mind Before You Decide To Move In With Your Partner
He who sings scares away his woes. —Cervantes , writer Music lifts moods. Psychologist and researcher Yuna Ferguson said, “Our work provides support for what many people already do—listen to music to improve their moods." Upbeat songs of your own choosing can pull you out of a funk but sad tunes can do the same. Freud wrote that we feel better when we are exposed to art with pathos because we feel understood, as if we are not alone, and that we are connected to a clan of like-minded beings. Further, we experience the artist as a benevolent figure who sees, cares, guides, and expresses what we might not be able to voice ourselves. Psychologist and researcher Dr. Anne Mieke van den Tol found that “an individual has intended to achieve mood enhancement through listening to ‘sad’ music.” While you may already have the habit of playing songs, melancholy or otherwise, it is good to know that music enhances wellness. Just in case music has left … [Read more...] about Music as Medicine, Songs as Solace
Starting Anew After Divorce? Source: Free Use/Pexels Going through a divorce can be daunting and challenging, and it is natural to feel overwhelmed. It can often feel like all the work you did to become a couple—from finding shared interests to figuring out how to accommodate each other’s needs—has to be undone, and in many ways that is true. You have spent so much time being someone else’s significant other, that finding yourself suddenly alone can be scary. After the immediate pain and shock of the separation begin to lift, the goal will become getting back out into the world and establishing yourself and your new interests away from what you shared with your spouse. In other words, the hope is to be able to put the focus firmly back on yourself. You are no longer part of the “we,” but are now looking to get back to the “me” you were before you joined your life with your ex’s. Sarah Palin might be dealing with much of this now … [Read more...] about Untangling the Me from the We