Understanding human trafficking in one way resembles the story of the blind men describing an elephant. According to the story from ancient India, several blind men touched an elephant and then reported on it. The man who touched the elephant’s trunk was sure the elephant was a snake. The man who touched the elephant’s side knew the elephant was a wall. And the man touching the elephant’s tusk was certain the elephant was a large, smooth spear. In the case of human trafficking, there are also many ways of looking at the subject. Each way of looking at the subject can be true and accurate without being the whole story. Human Trafficking and Criminal Activity Diane Halfman’s view of human trafficking will be, for many, a new way of looking at trafficking. Halfman is a retired police undercover agent, and to continue the elephant metaphor, she isn’t just touching the elephant, she’s aware of the whole ecology of elephants, like where they feed and who else is in the herd. … [Read more...] about The Evil Ecology of Human Trafficking
There are many relationship problems this post is not about, namely problems related to serious psychopathology, abuse, addiction , infidelity , or a basic lack of attraction . This post is about a common, ordinary type of couples' problem: the type that occurs between two good, functional people whose personality styles clash in some way. Different Does Not Mean Better or Worse Differences in styles of functioning play a role in many marital and couples problems ( Shapiro, 2020a; 2020b ). He is a morning person, and she is a night person; she wants more closeness, and he wants more autonomy; he is dramatic and expressive, while she is understated and reserved; one partner wants to discuss problems extensively, while the other wants to move on quickly, and so forth. Differences in styles of functioning, in and of themselves, are not problems. Couples become angry and unhappy when they misunderstand their differences to be disagreements about some objective issue … [Read more...] about When Couples’ Personality Styles Clash
Guest post by Brian Scott Hamilton Emotions are complex. Even the most basic emotions can be difficult for adults to understand, let alone articulate. Now imagine that you’re four years old and trying to convey how you feel about someone taking your favorite toy. Are you angry or sad? Are you surprised or fearful? Maybe you’re appalled. Maybe you’re disappointed. Maybe you’re feeling all of these things, but you just don’t have the words to convey it. When we look at the brain, it’s easy to understand why these problems exist. The parts of the brain responsible for generating emotions are known collectively as the limbic system (Shelat, 2020). This system represents some of the oldest structures in the human brain (Bruce and Neary, 1995). By contrast, the frontal lobe, the part of the brain that generates speech and controls emotional expression (Healthline, 2020) is one of the latest structures of the brain (Robson, 2011). It doesn’t even fully develop in humans until we’re … [Read more...] about What Emotion Does That Pokémon Represent?
There’s a deep abiding loneliness that comes with addiction , other mental health conditions, and experiences of trauma . More accurately, there are different forms of loneliness that may be both cause and consequence of these forms of suffering. One form is the loneliness of losing relationships with others that have been the warp and weft of our identities. Many people start to withdraw from relationships lest their struggles become known to others. They may fear losing the respect of important others or revealing themselves to be less than what they are taken to be. Those others may be the ones to end relationships, finding it too difficult or painful to remain connected. Some relationships fray over time while others seem to rupture suddenly and result in what can feel like a catastrophic loss. If those relationships have been axes around which a person’s life turned, their loss and subsequent loneliness can be profoundly alienating. Addiction, trauma, and mental … [Read more...] about 3 Types of Deep Abiding Loneliness