A recent study of college students' sexual behavior found that while the definition of "rough sex" differs from person to person, the practice should be considered normative. Of participants in relationships, about 4 in 5 had engaged in rough sex with their partner, and almost all reported at least some enjoyment of it. Transgender and non-binary individuals reported higher rates of rough sex enjoyment than others. Rough sex is one of the most popular sexual fantasies . In fact, when I surveyed 4,175 Americans about their fantasies for my book Tell Me What You Want , I found that most people had fantasied about some type of rough sex before. But what exactly does it mean to have “rough sex?” Which specific activities do people include in this? And how many people actually enjoy the idea of rough sex in real life—not just in their fantasies? A recent study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior provides some important insight into these questions, at … [Read more...] about How Many People Have Had “Rough Sex”?
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Source: iStockphoto/adl21 Have you ever fantasized about being ‘forced’ to have sex ? If so, you’re not alone. Fantasies about being taken against one’s will (sometimes known as ‘forced sex fantasies,’ ‘rape fantasies,’ or ‘ravishment fantasies’) are actually quite common. But just how many people report having had them? And why? I explored these questions in my book, Tell Me What You Want , which is based on a survey of more than 4,000 Americans’ sex fantasies. Among the many things I asked about were fantasies about being forced to have sex. Previous research has found that these fantasies are common among women; however, I found that they’re actually quite common among people of all genders. Here are the numbers: 61% of self-identified women had fantasized about this before, while 24% said they fantasized about it often. 54% of self-identified men had fantasized about this before, while 11.5% said they fantasized about it often. 68% of non-binary … [Read more...] about Why Are “Rape Fantasies” So Common?
For some pundits, the economy, and its structural failures, are central to explaining the emergence of anti-democratic tendencies that came to a head on January 6. Others prefer to interpret the divide among Americans as a matter of tribal identity . The Economic Inequity Explanation Clearly, we live in a society where the rich are becoming progressively richer while the situation of the middle classes and the poor remains stagnant, or deteriorates. This grievance animated the “Occupy” movement of 2011. Most economists attribute rising inequality to impersonal economic forces, such as globalization, and the digital economy that creates huge fortunes for Internet companies. Others interpret inequality as the result of a malign tyranny of the affluent. Political philosopher Michael Sandel argues that although we appear to live in a meritocratic society, the system is rigged in favor of the affluent (1). Those who get accepted at elite universities generally obtain good … [Read more...] about Post Mortem on American Democracy