Sections SEARCH Skip to content Skip to site index Style Log In Log In Today’s Paper Style | Jonathan Van Ness of ‘Queer Eye’ Comes Out Advertisement Supported by The reality-show star opens up about being an addict, a sexual abuse survivor and H.I.V. positive. ByAlex Hawgood Sept. 21, 2019, 7:00 a.m. ET Jonathan Seated in a window booth, he was serving what he calls his “16th-century Jesus” look: Hollywood-starlet tresses, a mustache à la a Super Mario villain and fingernails painted with cartoon depictions from the 1996 film “The First Wives Club.” But Mr. Van Ness was not feeling his normal gorgeous self, the boisterous “Yass queen” merman that fans of “Queer Eye” adore. He was hung over. And no, it wasn’t from partying too much. It was a “vulnerability hangover,” to use a term coined by Brené Brown, a TED … [Read more...] about Jonathan Van Ness of ‘Queer Eye’ Comes Out
Sections SEARCH Skip to content Skip to site index Style Log In Log In Today’s Paper Style | Wishing the World Could Be More Soft Advertisement Supported by Modern Love She expected to give birth on Christmas Day. What happened instead was too hard to explain. ByKelsey Francis Sept. 20, 2019, 12:00 a.m. ET Nine I didn’t know cemeteries had sales, but the clerk at the town hall, whose responsibilities included selling marriage and fishing licenses in addition to cemetery space, said this pair of plots had breathtaking mountain views. She also said we would love it there someday. In the months before, I had been pregnant with my second child, a girl, with a due date of Christmas Day. Our 3½-year-old son was convinced he would officially become a big brother on Christmas morning. I, on the other hand, was dreading the possibility of this scenario. “Can we name the new baby Peanut … [Read more...] about Wishing the World Could Be More Soft
Sections SEARCH Skip to content Skip to site index Style Log In Log In Today’s Paper Style | What Do Pants Have to Do With Professionalism? Advertisement Supported by SOCIAL Q’S A woman thinks that her female colleague’s low-cut slacks are inappropriate for the workplace. Should she say something? ByPhilip Galanes Sept. 19, 2019, 11:00 a.m. ET I am a woman who works at an all-boys high school with a predominantly male faculty and no senior female administrators. (I begin this way because I don’t think women at the school have any extra professionalism points to lose.) A female department head, who does excellent work, often wears pants that are so low-cut that her butt crack becomes visible when she bends over or leans forward from a seated position. I have witnessed this in meetings with male colleagues and students. It makes me uncomfortable. Should I say something to her? She must … [Read more...] about What Do Pants Have to Do With Professionalism?
Sections SEARCH Skip to content Skip to site index Style Log In Log In Today’s Paper Style | Tiny Love Stories: ‘It Wasn’t the Sex That Hurt, but the Lying’ Advertisement Supported by Modern Love Modern Love in miniature, featuring reader-submitted stories of no more than 100 words. Sept. 17, 2019, 3:00 p.m. ET “A Couple of What?” “If you cry when I die, I’m going to haunt you,” Rick said. “You’re going to have to haunt me,” I replied. Months later, as I walked around the apartment we were supposed to share, I shouted, “Where are you, you bastard?” When Rick took his last breath, my heart crumpled. No romance between us. We barely hugged. “You’re a lovely couple,” people would say. “A couple of what?” we’d respond. We were best friends, often found sitting on the couch, laughing like idiots. … [Read more...] about Tiny Love Stories: ‘It Wasn’t the Sex That Hurt, but the Lying’
Sections SEARCH Skip to content Skip to site index Log In Style | The Awkward but Essential Art of Office Chitchat The office: AN ANALYSIS We regret to inform you that you need to make small talk with your co-workers. Here’s how to master it. Credit Credit Illustration by Shannon Lin/The New York Times Supported by ByLindsay Mannering Sept. 17, 2019, 11:35 a.m. ET Everyan estimated three billion people go to work and 2.9 billion of them avoid making small talk with their co-workers once they get there. Their avoidance strategies vary. Some will keep their headphones in and their eyes low. Others will pantomime receiving an urgent message that requires an immediate, brow-furrowing, life-or-death rapid response, which incapacitates them from doing pretty much anything else, not excluding riding in, or communally waiting for, an elevator in their office building; making conversation while heating up lunch … [Read more...] about The Awkward but Essential Art of Office Chitchat