I am defining technology is any external mechanism that disrupts your kid’s ability to be present with his or her thoughts and feelings, and attuned to others. That includes any device that draws your kid’s attention away from the moment—such as ear buds, smart phones, laptops—and dulls his or her senses to the world and the people in it. Out of Touch and Out of Synch Recently, I watched an entire family in a restaurant eat dinner in stoney silence, as each member glared intently at smart phones. In fact, most of the children in the restaurant were eyeballing some kind of screen. One teenager, chatting on her cell phone, shoved her way out of the restaurant, nearly knocked over an elderly couple. Basic human interactions—thoughtfulness, kindness, courtesy—were completely absent among the youth. Worse, their parents supported their behavior by modeling their own insensitive tech dependent behaviors. Plugged into Technology, and … [Read more...] about How Technology Lowers Emotional Intelligence in Kids
Source: Pixabay I’m in the middle of a major life task. I’m downsizing. Soon I’ll be moving from my three bedroom, two bath house to a one bedroom, one bath apartment. This piece is not about how that decision came about. It’s about the unexpected joy that’s come my way as a result of being forced to downsize just about everything—from furniture to clothes to books to a lot of miscellaneous “stuff.” #1: Downsizing is a little walk through history. As I sort through boxes and albums I haven’t looked at in decades, I’m finding historical gems. My parents saved The New York Times from April 12, 1945, with its banner headline that Franklin Delano Roosevelt had died, only months into his fourth term as President. I’ve found a lot of historical documents, many in the form of newspaper articles written by my father-in-law who was a well-respected newspaperman in the Bay Area for over four decades. It’s also … [Read more...] about Discover the Joys of Downsizing
When you think about how people become narcissists, do you assume that something went wrong in their early development? Do you blame the parents for being pathologically involved with their children, or do you regard narcissism as emerging from early-life neglect? Perhaps you regard narcissism as the result of a culture that is breeding the millennial generation into self-centered and entitled adults. Although narcissism isn’t a new phenomenon, you may believe that it is escalating out of control through selfies and social media. Researchers have debunked the myth that millennials are more narcissistic than any preceding generation (e.g. Wetzel et al., 2017), but the myth remains active in public consciousness. New research supports this critique of the narcissism myth and adds to further understanding of the processes that may lead a young adult to tread the narcissism pathway. In the Netherlands, University of Tübingen’s Michael Grosz and colleagues (2019) led … [Read more...] about What Leads a Person Down the Narcissism Pathway?
The first month of 2016 is nearing its end, which means that the festive holidays are now a fond memory. January tends to be a quiet month, a time of rest and renewal, a period of reflection about the New Year. During these short winter days we tend to hibernate, but January can also the deadly. Demographic data indicate that more people die in winter, especially in January. There are many reasons for this increased mortality. Poor weather conditions and shorter days lend themselves to infections and flu. Fear of slipping and falling on icy sidewalks may prevent older adults from venturing outside. Such fear contributes to decreases in exercise and increases sedentary life styles that result in poor health. One rarely discussed reason for this increased mortality is loneliness. Some people hibernate by choice. They nestle themselves into warm houses filled with loved ones. There are, however, an increasing number of men and women, especially older men and women, who … [Read more...] about Meet Me for Coffee
Walking leads to many opportunities, alone and together Source: Stephen Coburn/Dreamstime Imagine walking outdoors on safe sidewalks, with convenient benches to aid those a little further along in the challenges of aging, and arriving at a bakery, or a library, or a park, perhaps one equipped with a senior playground. (https://www.governing.com/topics/health-human-services/gov-senior-playgrounds-popping-up.html) Sidewalks, benches, and bakeries may seem a strange way to foster aging well but combined they are a path for health far into the life course, and a blueprint for our aging society. The idea builds on a ground-up approach advocated by European researchers on how urban seniors could improve their local environment by using “Short distances strung together with staging posts” such as benches, bus shelters, restrooms set along safe sidewalks and crosswalks. (Peace, 2013) The idea is attractive because it is relatively low-cost, highly visible, and sets a strong … [Read more...] about Walking Toward Age-Friendly Cities