As an adult, do you find yourself continually attracted to and coupling with partners who are inattentive or inconsistent in their love? You may be repeating the pattern of how you were loved in childhood. It’s a sad reality that people who weren't loved adequately as children are often loved inadequately in adulthood. Children tune in to the messages they receive from their parents. If parents are distracted, overwhelmed by life, or emotionally or financially burdened, they can’t give their children the kind of attentive love and care they need to thrive. Although a parent may deeply love a child, just saying it isn’t enough. Of course, parents don’t have to be (and can’t be) perfect. However, parents who actively demonstrate love and care on a regular basis tend to raise children who are naturally drawn to healthy love in adulthood. Instead of settling for a few crumbs when it comes to love, hit the pause button and take a step back. Through … [Read more...] about Do You Outsource Your Self-Esteem to Relationships?
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Why We Obsess Over People Who Don’t Want Us
For simplicity's sake, I refer to heterosexual women in this post, but what I discuss here definitely applies to heterosexual men and non-heterosexual individuals as well. Source: Phovoir/Shutterstock Many of us are familiar with this scenario: Mr. Nice Guy is cute, sweet, interesting, smart, and available. Even better, he is interested in a relationship with you. The only problem is that you just aren't that into him. Mr. Bad Guy, on the other hand, is on your mind 24/7. Like Mr. Nice Guy, Mr. Bad Guy has a lot of good qualities, but he is either unavailable for a relationship in general, or unavailable for a relationship with you, because he just isn't that into you. Despite his continual rejection, however, you cannot seem to get him off your mind. The more he rejects you and the more forcefully he indicates that he doesn't want to be with you, the more interested you seem to become. Why do we develop this bad habit of wanting what we cannot … [Read more...] about Why We Obsess Over People Who Don’t Want Us
Manisha Koirala’s Winter Look Or Manushi Chillar’s Spring Avatar: Whose Pantsuit Was Better?
Home Fashion Bollywood wardrobe Bollywood Wardrobe Devika Tripathi By Devika Tripathi | on October 15, 2018 Over the years, the lines have become blurred and pantsuits have become one of the most trendy outfits. Pantsuits have come to define an independent woman, who is bossy and equally unapologetic about it. Pantsuits have become a global fashion phenomenon. Recently, we saw an actress and a Miss World rocking the trend. The actress was Manisha Koirala and the Miss World was Manushi Chhillar. While Manisha gave us a winter-wear goal, Manushi brought alive the magic of spring in the autumn. So, coming to Manisha first, she wore a grey-coloured pantsuit that was classy and crisp. She sported a timeless look, with a full-sleeved long overcoat, which she paired with structural and comfy pants. She also teamed her ensemble with a white-hued polo neck sweater and contrasting black pencil heels. Her hairdo was impeccable, makeup was natural, and she accessorised her look with studs … [Read more...] about Manisha Koirala’s Winter Look Or Manushi Chillar’s Spring Avatar: Whose Pantsuit Was Better?
“Dad, if I Get a B I Feel Like I’ve Failed”
Does your college student tell you, “If I don’t get all As, I’ll never get into medical school,” or “I’m too embarrassed to go to the fitness center because everyone is in better shape than I am”? If he feels what he does or how he looks is never good enough, he might be suffering from too much perfectionism. You’ve probably heard the song “Under Pressure” by Queen and David Bowie. I think of this song while I provide psychiatric care to college students, who are under increasing pressure to be perfect - to maintain high grades, have a busy social life, look great, all while appearing calm and collected. What, you might wonder, is the problem with perfectionism? Here is the trap of perfectionism: when we set the goal to be perfect, we are bound to fail, because we cannot do everything right all the time. Aiming for excellence, for the best you can be, is a far healthier approach to the world than trying to be perfect. … [Read more...] about “Dad, if I Get a B I Feel Like I’ve Failed”
What Leads a Person Down the Narcissism Pathway?
When you think about how people become narcissists, do you assume that something went wrong in their early development? Do you blame the parents for being pathologically involved with their children, or do you regard narcissism as emerging from early-life neglect? Perhaps you regard narcissism as the result of a culture that is breeding the millennial generation into self-centered and entitled adults. Although narcissism isn’t a new phenomenon, you may believe that it is escalating out of control through selfies and social media. Researchers have debunked the myth that millennials are more narcissistic than any preceding generation (e.g. Wetzel et al., 2017), but the myth remains active in public consciousness. New research supports this critique of the narcissism myth and adds to further understanding of the processes that may lead a young adult to tread the narcissism pathway. In the Netherlands, University of Tübingen’s Michael Grosz and colleagues (2019) led … [Read more...] about What Leads a Person Down the Narcissism Pathway?
